By Sarah Omar
I’ve had my fair share of experiences, a combination of mistakes and general challenges that I faced while growing up, mostly wasting my years away in reclusiveness and fear. As much as this list is for me to look back on and reflect, I hope that it resonates within all of you reading this.
– You come first, always. I know it’s hard because you’re such a romantic but darling love yourself! Otherwise you’re asking another human being to give you all the validation and love that you need to function. Not only is that an unreasonable expectation for them but a codependent relationship for you. The cycle won’t stop until you take the time to learn the parts of you that you want to improve; appreciate them; understand all the versions of you; embrace their stories; love every cell and atom that is you. God, you are so much more fascinating than you believe.
In a society where everyone else’s opinions matter, putting yourself first is one of the hardest things for a woman to do. But you’ve got to do it, love. You have to grab your own life by the horns and trust your gut.
― Alyssa Rae
– Mundane problems will get the better of you sometimes. Don’t worry. Try as you might, life cannot be an endless, beautiful, intense moment. Learn to live through the small moments of happiness. When they disappear, remember they will resurface.
– Stop feeling threatened and insecure by other girls. There will always be someone prettier, smarter, funnier, or more popular than you. The beauty of it is that it isn’t a competition. Revel in the knowledge that you are unique and no one is or can be you. You’re just getting in the way of forming and potentially creating incredible friendships. Get it together!
– You are not obliged to reciprocate when a guy shows interest in you. You alone know that you are capable of a love greater than anything they can comprehend. It is reverence for your own vast and fathomless heart, and it makes sense only to love someone who understands that and is awed by it. Don’t sell yourself short in the pursuit of love, be patient I promise it will be worth it!
– Sometimes, you just outgrow people and vice versa…that’s okay. You have to make peace with the fact that these people will become bittersweet memories. Make space for new bonds, there will be a handful of people who you will meet in this life, who will love you so symbiotically. They will always be in tune with the pulse of things, stretch your boundaries, and love your little quirks and all the things that make you who you are. Cherish them.
– Stop saying “should” to yourself about your thoughts and feelings in any context. You feel how you feel. The things in your head are the things in your head. You can’t change either directly through sheer force of will. You can only change what you do. So stop beating yourself up for who and what you are right now–it isn’t productive. Focus on moving forward.
Notice the silence. Notice your heart. Still beating. Still fighting. You made it, after all. You made it, another day. And you can make it one more. You’re doing just fine. You’re doing fine.
― Charlotte Eriksson
– Never neglect the little things. Never skimp on that extra effort, that additional few minutes, that soft word of praise or thanks, that delivery of the very best that you can do.
Read the book that has been sitting on your shelf for an eternity. Get up to watch the sunrise every once in a while. Voice your opinions. Be unapologetically you. Be brave. Take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Make decisions out of love not fear. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Surround yourself with people who nourish your soul. Aspire to inspire. Embrace the never ending journey of self-growth. Love yourself, all-ways, always.
This post was originally published at: http://www.aestheteheart.wordpress.com
Sarah, 23, is a modern calligrapher and harborer of the little things in life.
She expresses herself through handmade prints, the conjuring of words and artisanal gift boxes for givers nationwide.